Talking about confidence

[chrisvenus]

I read something that suggested that finding out more about confidence from the point of view of others was helpful to building your own self-confidence. So here we go. I am at times very un-confident in myself so I am going to ask a few questions to get people going on the subject. If you want to add in more comments or questions then feel free. I have a vague feeling I did something similar before but now I'm copying from a book so it will be much better. Anonymous posting welcome if you don't want to put your name to your answers. :)

1) What do you think confidence is?

2) Where does confidence come from?

3) Can you think of someone who is completely confident?

4) How can you tell if someone is confident or not?

5) How do you feel when you talk to someone who is not at all confident?

6) Does a confident person always feel confident?

and my own one for number 7:

7) What is the difference between being confident and acting confident?


I will try to put up my own answers later but I don't have time right now.

Comments

[theeighth.livejournal.com]

1) What do you think confidence is?
Pretending to be unafraid of failure when you're not. In turn that leading you to take risks, especially social risks, despite fear of that failure.

2) Where does confidence come from?
Experience of having taken risks and not failed. Preparation before the event also would increase confidence.

3) Can you think of someone who is completely confident?
Hmmm... no. But I can think of several people who are very confident, or would take a lot to have their confidence broken.

4) How can you tell if someone is confident or not?
They do things that others would not with a more apparent ease.

5) How do you feel when you talk to someone who is not at all confident?
Kept at a distance. Uneasy.

6) Does a confident person always feel confident?
I don't think so.

7) What is the difference between being confident and acting confident?
There isn't one that I can see.
I'm often called confident, but I'm often crapping myself going in to those same situations, I just try and stay looking relaxed, and go for things when the fear says to pull back.