Crushes

[chrisvenus]

And am I going to grow out of havign crushes on people? Fancying people that you know are unobtainable sucks. Especially when its not like you are ever going to tell them how you feel. Oh well. Posting this might solve the unknowing thing. If somebody (or the person in particular) asks when I am feeling in a sharing mood....

Comments

Shhhhh...

[vilenspotens.livejournal.com]

Share nothing, give nothing.

The whole point of crushes is that they are unrequited.

*grins* and no, they never leave you. But it can be good to just know that someone's happy, even if it's someone else making tham that way

Re: Shhhhh...

[riksowden.livejournal.com]

But that can be incredibly hard as well.

Re: Shhhhh...

[vilenspotens.livejournal.com]

*shrugs*

It is life

[neophyte-13.livejournal.com]

crushes are good, although sometimes it is better to bite the bullet and tell the person how you feel. The last time I did that it still took a few months before he was ready for it, but so far me going for it has meant a year of happiness and togetherness, go out on a limb, tell them you fancy them! Or before you do that ask yourself, what's the worst that could happen? If it's something you can handle what have you got to lose?

[chrisvenus]

Never ask me what the worst that can happen is. The thoughts that go through my mind are pretty bad and I can't help but feel that there may be worse I've not thought of yet. :)

[neophyte-13.livejournal.com]

ah, so you are somewhat like me then... what ifs spiral out of control until you have a scene of post apocalyptical doom in your head... Give it a go, it's the only way to know!

[bateleur.livejournal.com]

And am I going to grow out of having crushes on people ?

Oh yes, definitely. It's called being dead.

[bellus-noiseuse.livejournal.com]

Sometimes it's nice to have that feeling of having a crush on someone. Sometimes. Other times you feel really dumb & young & that there is no way that he feels the same way... yeah.

[kissifa.livejournal.com]

Why would you want to grow out of having crushes? They let you know you're alive in that vibrant crazy unabashed way that anonymous devotion and forbidden desire do.

When you stop feeling, you'll stop having crushes, simple as.

[magicalsushi.livejournal.com]

As you know, I can totally empathise...you're older than me and hence probably shouldn't take my advice but all the same, I feel I should point out that I stayed silent about a crush for over a year and it's definitely one of the stupidest things I've (not) done.

I've no idea about the specifics of your situation, but I strongly recommend you make sure you have some sort of plan or schedule with regards to sharing your feelings with the person concerned; if things go wrong or you don't manage to stick to the plan/schedule, try to be strong and just forget the whole thing, if you can.

Well, that's my (new) plan anyway; it's as likely to work for you as it is for me.

Sorry my comments always seem so perscriptive; I just never feel like it's worth me bothering people with comments unless I have something useful to say.

[magicalsushi.livejournal.com]

PS - Live dangerously! Give this a try...

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