4) How can you tell if someone is confident or not?
Someone who is hesitant, indecisive, or who keeps changing their mind is obviously thinking quite hard about what they're doing and is probably unsure of the correct approach. So while they might in the end come up with the right answer, they clearly aren't confident of it yet. Still, they might be confident of and comfortable with the fact that they have no confidence in their answer :-)
In social situations, someone who speaks willingly, and follows up on what they say, is confident that nothing too bad is going to happen as a result of that interaction. Someone who doesn't do those things is cautious or afraid of the situation.
Generally, if someone is willing to accept a penalty if they're wrong, then they're at least somewhat confident. But as cardinalsin very rightly says, bluffing does affect this.
5) How do you feel when you talk to someone who is not at all confident?
Depends what's at stake. When it's a matter of their confidence in something I want, or am planning to rely on, then perhaps frustrated at their inability to help me. Even angry, if I feel that they have a responsibility to be confident. "I can't say whether it'll be morning or afternoon" is a notorious case.
If it's that they're "not confident" socially in the sense of "shy", then usually I figure that I need to let them get to a topic or style of interaction that they're comfortable with, so I suppose I'm trying to feel sympathy.
6) Does a confident person always feel confident?
Confidence is both a state of knowledge and an emotion so I'd say no, it's inherently variable. A "happy person" doesn't always feel happy. But generally there are kinds of situation in which particular people are confident, and they can always feel confident in those. So you might have someone who is, for example, always confident he won't make a fool of himself chatting someone up in a bar.
7) What is the difference between being confident and acting confident?
Holding a royal flush is being confident. Going all in is acting confident.
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Date: 2007-06-14 02:30 pm (UTC)Someone who is hesitant, indecisive, or who keeps changing their mind is obviously thinking quite hard about what they're doing and is probably unsure of the correct approach. So while they might in the end come up with the right answer, they clearly aren't confident of it yet. Still, they might be confident of and comfortable with the fact that they have no confidence in their answer :-)
In social situations, someone who speaks willingly, and follows up on what they say, is confident that nothing too bad is going to happen as a result of that interaction. Someone who doesn't do those things is cautious or afraid of the situation.
Generally, if someone is willing to accept a penalty if they're wrong, then they're at least somewhat confident. But as cardinalsin very rightly says, bluffing does affect this.
5) How do you feel when you talk to someone who is not at all confident?
Depends what's at stake. When it's a matter of their confidence in something I want, or am planning to rely on, then perhaps frustrated at their inability to help me. Even angry, if I feel that they have a responsibility to be confident. "I can't say whether it'll be morning or afternoon" is a notorious case.
If it's that they're "not confident" socially in the sense of "shy", then usually I figure that I need to let them get to a topic or style of interaction that they're comfortable with, so I suppose I'm trying to feel sympathy.
6) Does a confident person always feel confident?
Confidence is both a state of knowledge and an emotion so I'd say no, it's inherently variable. A "happy person" doesn't always feel happy. But generally there are kinds of situation in which particular people are confident, and they can always feel confident in those. So you might have someone who is, for example, always confident he won't make a fool of himself chatting someone up in a bar.
7) What is the difference between being confident and acting confident?
Holding a royal flush is being confident. Going all in is acting confident.