Either being certain of your own ability to deal with the situations you find yourself in, or at least certainty that you're going to be able to survive your own failure.
2) Where does confidence come from?
Succeeding at things really helps, especially succeeding alone and through your own efforts. Support from other people is good, but I tend the think the beneficial effect is indirect - knowing people like you is good, but them saying you're great doesn't mean a lot in itself. After all, if you're totally incompetent and hopeless then your friends would probably lie to you about it.
3) Can you think of someone who is completely confident?
Nope... you'd either have to believe you could do anything (and you'd probably be mad), or you'd have to not care about anything.
4) How can you tell if someone is confident or not?
Subtle things - but I think you usually can tell the difference between someone genuinely confident and someone merely acting that way. Things like body language and tone of voice and things probably all play a part.
5) How do you feel when you talk to someone who is not at all confident?
Depends on the circumstances. Sometimes its sweet, sometimes its annoying, sometimes it undermines my own confidence, sometimes is boosts it. It depends on how they express it, and what their relationship is to you. False confidence is almost always annoying, someone coming to you for help almost always gratifying. Professionally, it's usually worrying.
6) Does a confident person always feel confident?
Not if they're sensible.
and my own one for number 7:
7) What is the difference between being confident and acting confident?
The internal sensation of power you get from genuine confidence. Although I tend to find that if I can act confident about something, genuine confidence often comes later... but perhaps it's easiest to act when you double-think anyway. From the perspective of others, it probably makes a difference only if they can tell you're faking it.
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Date: 2007-06-14 10:34 am (UTC)Either being certain of your own ability to deal with the situations you find yourself in, or at least certainty that you're going to be able to survive your own failure.
2) Where does confidence come from?
Succeeding at things really helps, especially succeeding alone and through your own efforts. Support from other people is good, but I tend the think the beneficial effect is indirect - knowing people like you is good, but them saying you're great doesn't mean a lot in itself. After all, if you're totally incompetent and hopeless then your friends would probably lie to you about it.
3) Can you think of someone who is completely confident?
Nope... you'd either have to believe you could do anything (and you'd probably be mad), or you'd have to not care about anything.
4) How can you tell if someone is confident or not?
Subtle things - but I think you usually can tell the difference between someone genuinely confident and someone merely acting that way. Things like body language and tone of voice and things probably all play a part.
5) How do you feel when you talk to someone who is not at all confident?
Depends on the circumstances. Sometimes its sweet, sometimes its annoying, sometimes it undermines my own confidence, sometimes is boosts it. It depends on how they express it, and what their relationship is to you. False confidence is almost always annoying, someone coming to you for help almost always gratifying. Professionally, it's usually worrying.
6) Does a confident person always feel confident?
Not if they're sensible.
and my own one for number 7:
7) What is the difference between being confident and acting confident?
The internal sensation of power you get from genuine confidence. Although I tend to find that if I can act confident about something, genuine confidence often comes later... but perhaps it's easiest to act when you double-think anyway. From the perspective of others, it probably makes a difference only if they can tell you're faking it.